Breast Cancer

“Don’t Wait”: A story of a breast cancer survivor’s courage to follow her heart and intuition.

I recently had the honor of being a guest on Dr. Deepa Halaharvi’s The Breast Cancer Podcast. Along with my breast surgeon, Dr. Mark Cripe, we discussed how we navigated my diagnosis, treatment, and recovery, all with the ultimate goal of getting back to living my full-time RV life.

With my book, Don’t Wait – Our Full-time RV Journey Through Breast Cancer, as our guide, we talked about the importance of knowing your body, not waiting if you think something has been missed, and how vitally important it is to have a great doctor/patient relationship.

I hope you’ll give this podcast a listen with the link below and share it with others who may be dealing with something similar. I want to spread the message that what we are dealing with is normal in a very abnormal situation that none of us asked to be in.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-breast-cancer-podcast/id1565403179?i=1000660119058

Also, please check out my book, Don’t Wait – Our Full-Time RV Journey Through Breast Cancer, for more on how my husband and I dealt with this unexpected diagnosis while living full-time in our 41-ft. fifth wheel.

Other posts about my breast cancer journey

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Empower Your Life: My Writing Process and Breast Cancer Journey/Interview with Kacey Sophia

I had the pleasure of doing an Instagram Live with Kacey Sophia this week. We talked all about my writing process, my contemporary romance series, and how I came to write Don’t Wait – Our Full-time RV Journey Through Breast Cancer.

I loved using this platform to share my message of Don’t Wait to enhance, change, and maybe even save your life.

Give it a watch and then click on the link below to check out all 7 books I currently have available on Amazon Kindle Unlimited, ebook, and paperback.

Quick Link to My Books On Amazon

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Don’t Wait – Our Full-Time RV Journey Through Breast Cancer

I decided to write Don’t Wait – Our Full-Time RV Journey Through Breast Cancer two weeks after my life-changing surgery. What I thought was a routine mammogram during our yearly trip to Ohio for check-ups before continuing our epic 2023 adventure, turned out to be anything but.

We all have those Don’t Wait moments in life. After hearing stories of others who had waited until that perfect time that never came, we chose to get out there and live our full-time RV life in 2019.

In Don’t Wait – Our Full-Time RV Journey Through Breast Cancer, I chronicle the path my husband Mike and I took from becoming full-time RVers living and traveling the country in our 2019 Grand Design Solitude 385GK, to living the Don’t Wait motto.

Along the way, we had our own Don’t Wait moments to deal with.

Our biggest came when I chose to get my yearly mammogram early because we would be traveling at the time that I should be having it. This Don’t Wait moment became more than we ever dreamed it would be.

Don’t Wait provides a personal account of my diagnosis of breast cancer and my medical decision-making, all while living in an RV and staying focused on our travel plans. We chose to face this new Don’t Wait moment head-on and get rid of the “pothole in our RV travel road” so that we could get back on the road as quickly as possible.

You never know what the next day will bring, so live each day with the Don’t Wait motto.

Amazon (paperback and ebook):

To hear more of my story, check out my conversation with Cori Freeman on her podcast, Don’t Ignore the Nudge, with the links below.

Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-wait-with-jennifer-skinnell/id1552806351?i=1000642368604

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2LtBPp75BYhlT3W2JjNfre?si=ZmzL6RrJRtOMdL_pV3ETyw

I hope after hearing my story, you’ll feel inspired to live your life with the Don’t Wait motto.

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What 2023 Taught Me

As 2023 comes to a close, I thought I’d reflect on what I learned this year.

1. No matter how much you plan, God is ready to give you a new plan.

If you’ve followed me on social media, then you know that my husband and I live full-time in an RV. As a result, we plan our stays about a year out.

Such was the case in 2023, but God had other plans.

2. Be flexible.

As a result of Number 1, I learned quickly that you need to be flexible. Most of the time things aren’t going to go the way you planned, so instead of driving yourself crazy, be ready to be flexible.

3. Besides family, friends are like gold.

Cherish your family and friends. When you need them the most, they’ll be there for you in a heartbeat.

4. Don’t second-guess yourself.

Go with your gut. I think this is God’s way of telling you this is the path he wants you to take.

There were only two times in my life when God’s nudge was enough to push me over. One was is 2016, and you can read about it here, and the other was in 2023. Listen!

If I hadn’t listened to that little voice (aka God) telling me to get my mammogram five months early, I wouldn’t have had the awesome medical team I had, nor would I have had the successful outcome I had.

5. Have goals.

Whether they are small or large, goals are important. My husband and I had a goal of attending the Tournament of Roses Parade Festivities at the end of 2023. This goal weighed heavily in my decisions during my treatment and recovery.

Conclusion

Throughout this year and especially during my breast cancer journey, these five things got me through 2023.

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What’s in Your Book of Life?

NOTE: I wrote this originally in July of 2016 on my other blog site, The Rambling Quilter, and thought it was interesting that it is still relevant today. This isn’t meant to be a religious discussion—more of something for you to ponder as you live your life. What is in your Book of Life? How can you make your Book of Life more of what you’d like your life to be? Are you waiting until “the right time” to do something or see something or go somewhere you’ve always wanted?

If so, this post may make you rethink that decision to wait. We aren’t guaranteed the next minute, let alone “the right time”. Make sure your Book of Life is full of everything you’ve wanted to experience.

What would your Book of Life be like?

From The Rambling Quilter, July 2016

Recently I saw a show about how the Smithsonian Museum is restoring the Jefferson Bible. I had not heard of the Jefferson Bible, and I found this program completely fascinating. Jefferson painstakingly cut apart bibles in several different languages to create his version of Jesus’ life without all the miracles and his ascension.

Wouldn’t it be nice if the Book of Life were like that—only in reverse? We could keep all the happy and wonderful parts and discard all the bad.

I had a chance meeting with my aunt and uncle at Panera for breakfast. I’ll never forget the huge hug she gave me or her telling me that she wanted all her nieces and nephews to connect. It never crossed our mind that she’d pass away after a tragic car accident a couple of weeks later.

She got her wish. For two days we gathered, reminiscing about growing up with our beloved aunt and catching up on what our families were doing. Many of us realized that we hadn’t seen each other in twenty years or more. We all had families of our own and time really got away from us. It was so nice reconnecting and remembering that my family was so much bigger than just those I spent the most time with. That part I would keep in my Book of Life.

At the same time, though, we were saying goodbye to an aunt we all truly loved. I saw my mom, aunt, and uncle say goodbye to their baby sister. I saw my three cousins say goodbye to their mom. And I saw my uncle say goodbye to the love of his life of forty years. I would love to cut this part out of my Book of Life.

There are so many good things going on in the world that are too often overshadowed by events we have absolutely no control over.

I realize that it is totally unrealistic to have a Book of Life that is only happy, wonderful events. We’ve all heard that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. Well, right now I’d say he must think we are some pretty strong people because he’s giving us a lot.

Even though my Book of Life is still overflowing with wonderful moments, these are the occasional events that God thinks I can handle that really test me.

My aunt’s family’s wish in lieu of flowers was that we hug our loved ones every day. As we witnessed, life is short and you just don’t know when it will be the last page of your own personal Book of Life.

As I said before, I wrote this back in 2016 right after my beloved aunt’s funeral. Since then, I’ve written six novels, and many blog posts, and my husband and I have sold our home and begun traveling the country in our RV. We work from the road and do, see, and go everywhere we can to experience as much as we can. We chose NOT to wait until “the right time.”

I’d love to hear your thoughts. My hope is this post inspires you to experience something new, even if it’s right outside your front door.

How will your Book of Life read? Make it amazing!

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Time for A Change

Sometimes you just have to admit when it’s time for a change. Age and limitations are factors that come into play when deciding if it’s time. These two things played a big role in the decision I recently made. I’d been kicking this change around for a while, and I finally decided it was time.

New career? New phone? New husband?

No, not a new husband! I’m talking about a new bike.

My Trusty Pearl

My beloved Pearl. She’s a Trek FX-4

I’ve had my Pearl for years (and over 2,000 memorable miles), and while she has served me well, I just wasn’t able to ride her for as long or keep up with my husband on our rides.

We would start out together, but then he’d start coasting as I was struggling to keep up. His bike made this clicking sound when he was coasting, and when I was trying hard to keep up, this was the “most annoying sound in the world.”

Eventually, I would send him off to ride on his own so he could get in a good workout while I kept my own pace.

This was fine for trails we rode a lot, but once we would move to a new location in our RV, I didn’t want to ride unfamiliar trails alone. I wanted to ride with him so we could experience new places together.

My Hesitation

I’m going to confess that for many years I was one of those people who said that anyone with an e-bike was cheating. I would see these people go past me coasting while I was struggling.

Then I started investigating the different types of e-bikes. There are basically two types:

  • Pedal-assist requires that you actually pedal in order for the bike to move and you have different speeds to help you along (I’ll get into those in a minute.); or
  • the other kind (where you have a throttle that you can turn and the bike will start moving even if you aren’t peddling).

Don’t get me wrong—both of these are great options depending on your needs. I needed to be able to get a good workout in, burn some serious calories, and keep up with my husband.

My New Bike

Ellie the e-bike. My Trek Verve+ 3

I chose to go with the pedal-assist model. As I said, I still have to pedal this bike, but I do have four “speeds” to help me.

  • Eco – I use this the most because it saves battery, and so far we’ve been on relatively flat trails
  • Touring – When I have a small incline, I switch to this mode. We were on a trail that had switchbacks and this mode worked great.
  • Sport – When the incline is a little longer, and when Mike is pulling away from me, I switch to this and catch up quickly
  • Turbo – I’m going to call this “getting away from the chasing dog” mode because that is when I used it and it worked great!

My Wins

For a 25-mile ride, I’ve burned over 800 calories, so I call that a win. (I’ve already logged over 80 miles in 3 rides)

I can ride longer and more comfortably, so I call that a win.

The biggest win is that I can keep up with Mike, he gets his good workout in, and we enjoy riding together.

Conclusion

No matter what type of exercise you choose, the important thing is to choose something you’ll enjoy for years to come.

Kudos to the team at three different Bike World locations in San Antonio who helped me get the right bike for me. Also, thank you Trek for designing such a great line of e-bikes for every rider.

Jennifer Skinnell
Jennifer Skinnell

Jennifer Skinnell is the author of the Hope Springs Romance Series available on Amazon. When she’s not writing novels, Jennifer is documenting her travels around the country with her husband in their RV. Her travel blog, The Rambling Quilter, can be found at www.theramblingquilter.com.